3 Levels of Ok when it comes to your child's learning

3 levels of OKAY when it comes to your child's learning

You want to see smiles on your child's face.  Everyone does.  But what if school and learning are leaving them frustrated, sad and ready to quit. 

I'm a Mom -- just like you.  

I get your world and I will most likely understand parts of your child's world.  

I've walked the school halls for 20 years so I understand the demands and systems within this structure.  

I've watched many Moms search for support for their child, but in the end, they have limited support or their child ends up not making the gains they need. 

I've also watched too many children frustrated when they are asked to learn something in a way that doesn't fit the way they learn -- leaving them frustrated and wanting to give up on their ability to learn. 

When a Mom starts to describe their child to me and they go into details about their child's struggles to learn and the frustration they are experiencing at home and school.  I can't help but be moved.  I hear how their child's confidence and self-esteem is dropping and I can relate on a personal level...

...because they are usually describing some part of me.   

I struggled to understand my learning and along the way I lost my self-esteem and confidence.  I don't want others to experience this, and if they have, I want to offer them hope and understanding so they can regain their confidence in themselves and their learning again.  

So how can I do this?  

I can do this through the one person that truly believes in their child and that's YOU -- the Mom (or Dad)! 

You are the powerhouse when it comes to helping your child -- YOU know them the best and you are a CONSTANT person in their lives! 

I know you may not feel like a powerhouse when you are uncertain what you need to do to help your child learn (and even more importantly, regain confidence in themselves).  

But you are! You just need the right support and guidance for YOU -- so you can offer this to your child and start to see progress in their learning. 

And that's why I created the Invincible Mama Program and Strategy Sessions for more 1:1 support for parents like you.  

You see, I not only understand what it's like to learn differently, I also know what it's like to be a Mom figuring out the next steps to support my child when others couldn't see the struggle or when the progress in their learning was not there.  

Over time, I started to view different levels of OK when it came to how kids are coping with their way of learning. 

You can get my FREE Moving Beyond Ok to find out what level of ok your child is at and what steps you can take to support them at each level. 

These 3 levels of OK are: 

1. Not OK -- they are struggling to learn (they know it -- you know it)

2. Just OK -- they are learning but their self-esteem is low

3. Beyond OK -- {this is where I want all kids with learning differences to be!}  they understand how they learn and they have a voice for what they need.

Download my "Moving Your Child Beyond OK" sheets {which is really a type of checklist} which I shared while speaking to at a Parent's Conference    CLICK HERE

Let me know what level your child is at and what steps you will take to support them next. 

Susan 

 

 

 

 

7 Ways to Support Your Child When School is Hard

when school is hard

School is starting soon or may it already has for you.  If your child is not excited about returning to school and homework is adding frustration to evening time together I would love to offer you my "7 Ways to Support your Child when School is Hard" tips. 

Just click on the button below to download the sheet and give it a read! (no email required) 

You will find that these are not your typical learning tips as they come from my personal learning experiences and what I have learned as a Mom.  

Just remember you've got this.  You just need support to help you move forward. Your child is truly blessed to have you as a Mom (or Dad) as you are here looking for ways to support them.  And I hope my tips will also help you along your journey.

Let me know what tips helped you by commenting below.  

Why do I focus on Moms when my passion is to help kids?

passion to work with YOU to support your child

Why do I focus on Moms when my passion is to support children and their learning?  Because through Moms I can help kids step into their way of learning.  

Let me explain.  

First of all,  Moms (and Dads, of course) hold a powerful position which allows their child to embrace how they learn and ultimately 'who they are'. 

I can say this (now) because it was only after I wrote my book did I really grasp this concept of how powerful we are as Parents.  It highlighted that I really held the keys to how my kids would start to see themselves.  I was their role model.  If I did not own my story and accept who I was -- how could my children accept themselves? 

Yup, owning my story was HARD.  But how could I talk the talk, if I didn't walk the walk?

Did I accept how I learned? No.  Did I want my kids to accept their way of learning? Yes.  

Welllll...you can see that I had a problem here...things were not matching up.  Say one thing.....think another.  

I could have 'told' my kids they were smart and that they should accept themselves but my words would have been like putting water in a bucket that had a hole.  No real 'weight' behind that message as they would have 'seen' right through that. (don't you love when your kids can see right through you)  

So instead of just talking ...I started walking.  It was time to own my story. To come to terms with my learning so they could really come to terms with their learning.  

Now was this easy?  No I had some denial to overcome.  I had shoved the shame and pain of learning differently down so far that I almost convinced myself I could learn like anyone else. I had a degree.  I....I ....I...struggled to read and write (wham....the real story came to the surface) 

It didn't feel too good.  In fact, my body responded with anxiety.  It was like my body knew what my mind had rejected.  The pain of learning differently and what came with that when I really didn't understand myself.  But I did understand myself now and I could offer that understanding to my kids.  They didn't need to feel the shame if they understood what it was and what they needed to learn.  The anxiety remained but it didn't stop me from pushing through to own my whole story.  The real story.  I was gonna do this for them.  I was gonna let them know they were smart and that they had rights to learn the way they did and this did not define their intelligence or what they would become.  

I was owning my story for the first time.  I was accepting all of me.  So I could help my kids accept all of themselves.  

(And this is not just about learning (just in case you are wondering) it's about accepting every part of ourselves so we can offer this to our children.) 


I dealt with the feelings that were part of my past, present and future.  It started with me.   And by doing this, I could see what I need to do next.  I wasn't caught up in what others could do but what I needed to do.  What I needed to share with my children. 

So one of the first steps to really helping your child -- is to look at yourself first.  

Not just a quick peek either...because if we say it fast ....do you accept you?  We might say oh yeah!  But are you hiding anything from others.  Do you talk to yourself in a negative way when you can't do something you 'think you should be able to do' (by the way that might be your area of weakness...and that's okay if you're not good at that because your child needs to hear this too) 
 

To help you get clear on where you are and what your child needs to learn in a way that fits them -- start with my Invincible Mama Program.  The reflective questions will guide you through the steps to create a solid foundation so you can really support your child and their learning.  

Just know you are a powerful model in your child's life and your support is needed.  That's why I focus on parents to help children succeed with their learning -- they can when they have a supportive team around them.