Learning Differences: the physical and emotional needs of your child

Looking at your child's physical and emotional needs when it comes to learning differences

When I started writing my book, I wrote it to figure out what my learning journey was. 

Denial was a wonderful thing and it stopped me from seeing what had happening during the school years but when the pen hit the paper that world was opened up.  I couldn't deny what I had experienced. 

But not only did I write about my learning differences.  I wrote about my physical health and my bodies respond to the ongoing demands.

I now know I was in a constant state of 'flight or fight'.  I wasn't a fighter so I became the hidden person or when possible the 'flight' person. 

Fear was there all the time in the shape of dread. 

My first chapter covers the dread of school (if you wanna read it click here) but as I read my own chapters again I realized that the physical symptoms were a result of this response. 

It was over this time, I realize that learning differently is also about dealing with stresses as a child -- and of course, the stresses as a parent, particularly if you are supporting your children through a similar journey to your own. 

We can't ignore the physical and emotional needs of your children that learn differently.  But at the time I was working through this -- no one highlighted this for me. 

I did what I could to support my children but if I had someone tell me that all this pieces go together - it would have gave me some insight and confidence to move forward.

So if you are here wondering what you can do or if this is even a thing that needs to be addressed?!? I'm here to say, it is.  You will be supporting not only your child's learning but also their emotional and physical needs based on what they are called to do each day.

So what can you do to support your child and YOU? (as parents are also needing this care as well) 

Well today, I'm offering you a tool that can support many areas of your life.  It's only been the last 6 months that I've come across this support but I would have loved to have had this for my children when they were younger. (and honestly, for me as well) 

When I think about the steps I took to support my kids - I can picture what I would do to add the essential oils into our day. 

First, the morning transition would need something that is energizing and awakening. The diffuser with peppermint, lemon and wild orange. (this I use in my office -- it's called Happy) 

If anxiety was present in the morning offering balance and citrus bliss - either by diffusing in their room or roll on their feet.

I would use a similar blend when coming home - something calming like wild orange and lemon.  Time to be quiet and if need be offer a time to just sit with my kids and hold them (as this is what I did to help them through the feelings they had from the day)

For homework, I would ask them what they wanted to use to diffuse or place on their feet to focus.  Kids are great at sensing what they need through their smell.  Intune offers a warm sensation on your feet to help with focus (I've used it - with great results)

And finally, Onguard to help boost their immunity as they are working so hard to show others what they know. 

How is this different from what I do now?  Actually.  Not too different.  

I use peppermint in the morning in my bedroom which reaches all the bedrooms for the morning sleepy heads.  

I use wild orange and lemon in the kitchen for a calm transition for breakfast. 

My kids use onguard at bedtime to help keep their immunity up and at times lavender to support their sleep. 

I haven't tried the homework blends or oils as I'm at the place where they are doing well starting and completing most of their work with minimal support (yes that day will come - trust me) but it's still something I should try to see what the results are. 

Finally, I offered them probiotics, vitamins/supplements to help them get through their day and support their gut health which is SO needed for brain function,  And I can't forget one of the most important supports -- touch! Holding or hugging your child (no matter what age they are) brings down their stress levels. (read a study here) but when they experience physical discomforts such as tummy troubles, coughs/colds, or muscles aches, I would reach for other essential oils (as I do now) such as Zengest, Breathe and Deep blue. 

NOW - what is need for YOU?  

We will cover that next. 

Susan 

P.S. If you are want to know more about how the doTERRA essential oils to  support you at home - you can by connecting with me by phone, watch a video or if you know this is the right fit for you -- you can visit my Invincible YOU page where you can go through the steps to get these oils into your hands and  be part of my 30 minute wellness consult and my Invincible YOU Facebook Page. 

It's time to address all the needs your child has (and you do too) 

Look at your child's emotions or behaviours -- what are they telling you?

Look at your child's emotions or behaviours -- what are they telling you?

It's not all about looking at the skills.  Look at your child's emotions. 

If your child is struggling (even just a bit) in school and you notice that they are anxious about school and learning -- don't let others tell you it's nothing.

This could be a sign that your child is silently struggling with their way of learning and they need to understand how they learn.
 
Kids that learn differently are smart -- they can survive but this is not thriving.
 
 I want kids to thrive.

When kids survive they make decisions based on this -- based on what they can't do.  And to them that's learning...that's school.  And that's simply NOT true.  They can learn and they are SO capable! 

I survived -- but your child doesn't have to.

Watch your child.  What are they telling you in their actions?  Are they sad? Angry? Frustrated? Their behaviour is telling your something.  

WE all want to read, write and use numbers in a way that makes us feel that we can take on the world.  But if we feel we can't do this our self esteem drops -- hard.  

If you see this -- ask your child how they feel about their abilities to read and write.  

Listen.

Let them know you will help them figure out how they learn. 

Because they can learn. 

Find out how to observe and support your child by moving through the Invincible Mama Program here >>>>

 

Susan
 

3 Levels of Ok when it comes to your child's learning

3 levels of OKAY when it comes to your child's learning

You want to see smiles on your child's face.  Everyone does.  But what if school and learning are leaving them frustrated, sad and ready to quit. 

I'm a Mom -- just like you.  

I get your world and I will most likely understand parts of your child's world.  

I've walked the school halls for 20 years so I understand the demands and systems within this structure.  

I've watched many Moms search for support for their child, but in the end, they have limited support or their child ends up not making the gains they need. 

I've also watched too many children frustrated when they are asked to learn something in a way that doesn't fit the way they learn -- leaving them frustrated and wanting to give up on their ability to learn. 

When a Mom starts to describe their child to me and they go into details about their child's struggles to learn and the frustration they are experiencing at home and school.  I can't help but be moved.  I hear how their child's confidence and self-esteem is dropping and I can relate on a personal level...

...because they are usually describing some part of me.   

I struggled to understand my learning and along the way I lost my self-esteem and confidence.  I don't want others to experience this, and if they have, I want to offer them hope and understanding so they can regain their confidence in themselves and their learning again.  

So how can I do this?  

I can do this through the one person that truly believes in their child and that's YOU -- the Mom (or Dad)! 

You are the powerhouse when it comes to helping your child -- YOU know them the best and you are a CONSTANT person in their lives! 

I know you may not feel like a powerhouse when you are uncertain what you need to do to help your child learn (and even more importantly, regain confidence in themselves).  

But you are! You just need the right support and guidance for YOU -- so you can offer this to your child and start to see progress in their learning. 

And that's why I created the Invincible Mama Program and Strategy Sessions for more 1:1 support for parents like you.  

You see, I not only understand what it's like to learn differently, I also know what it's like to be a Mom figuring out the next steps to support my child when others couldn't see the struggle or when the progress in their learning was not there.  

Over time, I started to view different levels of OK when it came to how kids are coping with their way of learning. 

You can get my FREE Moving Beyond Ok to find out what level of ok your child is at and what steps you can take to support them at each level. 

These 3 levels of OK are: 

1. Not OK -- they are struggling to learn (they know it -- you know it)

2. Just OK -- they are learning but their self-esteem is low

3. Beyond OK -- {this is where I want all kids with learning differences to be!}  they understand how they learn and they have a voice for what they need.

Download my "Moving Your Child Beyond OK" sheets {which is really a type of checklist} which I shared while speaking to at a Parent's Conference    CLICK HERE

Let me know what level your child is at and what steps you will take to support them next. 

Susan